Why you should ask questions
- You will learn better. I remember answers much better if they’re given in response to a question I asked.
- You will distinguish yourself. At an Entrepreneurs’ Exchange this May, I asked a question during the Q&A. As usual, hardly anyone offered to ask questions. Afterwards, one speaker looped me in to a conversation while I was queueing to speak with her. Other audience members were more willing to come over and start conversations too.
- ‘Asking the right questions’ is often cited as what differentiates the top researchers, businesspeople or data scientists from the rest. If you don’t ask questions, how do you expect to ever ask the right ones?
How I learned
- Just ask!
- This sounds simple but can take time especially if you’re scared of asking questions as I was. You’re already asking people questions in conversations. Start asking questions in talks and webinars. Ask people who work in customer service questions – they’re there to help you. If you want more time to think or prefer relative anonymity, try emailing people questions or posting comments on blogs. It might be tiring at first, but it will become more natural with time.
- Do interviews
- i.e. asking questions and listening on steroids. Last year I interviewed 10 startup founders or team members for the CoCoon First 100, a book about startups in Hong Kong. More on that later.
- Watch other people ask questions and take note of good ones.
- This may seem over the top but this type of deliberate work is what gets you places. Just as artists analyse famous paintings, you should analyse what you think are good questions. Example: I take notes all the time – when I’m watching debates, when I’m reading articles, when I’m listening to a sermon or watching a talk online (though usually not for 3-minute Youtube videos). Except when I’m scared someone will judge me for taking notes, and that’s because I’m dumb. From taking notes (NOT writing down everything people say), I amassed a 100+ page debating matter file over 3 months with information that comes in useful in almost every debate I bring it to. I’ve used notes from talks to ask follow up questions, learn more actively and craft answers to interview questions, helping me land an internship with JPMorgan.
When to ask?
If you don’t actually care about the answer to your question, don’t attempt to ask it unless there are no other questions and everyone is sitting in awkward silence (as it often is during Q&As).
Sometimes it might really be better to hold off. In specialist areas, you often need understanding to ask good questions. Consider a talk on Global Capital Markets (GCM) at Morgan Stanley, where the speaker threw us a new acronym every 15 seconds. It was the first time I’d heard of GCM and I could barely digest the content, let alone process it to ask a good question. Given there were 10+ hands up (Note that other people’s questions aren’t always as superior to your questions as you think), I held back and got to hear some really good questions from students who had prior interest in GCM.
Even so, I still could’ve asked a standard, solid question like ‘What do you find most stressful about your job?’ or ‘What do you do on a day to day basis?’ and would’ve likely got a useful answer. Some people think the latter question is asked too often and is therefore a bad question. But what matters is whether the story, view or information you can get from the answer to the question is valuable. It is surprisingly hard to get info online on what people in different areas and companies do on a day to day basis, and it gives you a much more realistic idea of what doing that job is like.
Questions that often get useful answers
Specificity and concreteness is key.
- Ask about actions. Ask what exactly the speakers did they to get to where they are or to get to a certain point in their careers.
- Beliefs are much vaguer and don’t help that much because people float soundbites around all the time. They might be helpful, but in an age where we’re surrounded by generic (often helpful) personal development advice and motivational quotes, there’s less need for obtaining that information from expert sources.
- Ask what surprised them most or what misunderstandings people usually have about their job, research area or industry.
- Think about the why and underlying assumptions. E.g. objects usually have positive refractive index. What would happen if they had negative refractive indices?
- Ask what things might be like in the future (5-10 year outlook) or ask about their views on current events.
But people will judge me / but my question is bad
- They think your question is silly or bad.
- They think you are too ‘keen’ because you’re asking questions.